Men, Women, Sex & Aging

A common misconception and stereotype placed on the elderly is that of their sex lives. Although it is true that many physical changes may occur within female and male sexuality, this does not always mean that sex must halt. It is very common for males over the age of 60 to be diagnosed with prostate cancer, this can commonly lead to removal of the prostate gland, having a negative effect on a males sexual abilities. Another common issue with aging males is erectile dysfunction, this too can have detrimental effects on a males sexual capabilities. Though both females and males may experience issues later in life dealing with sex, the issues females experience are entirely different. Males mostly experience systematic failures with their sexual and reproductive organs, while females primarily experience hormonal changes, such as menopause (leading to a reduced amount of estrogen). Females experiencing menopause may also experience many of the following symptoms: vaginal dryness, irritation, mood swings, depression, and even lowered libido. Unfortunately, all of these factors add to a less than ideal sexual environment. Aging men may become extremely self conscious of their inability to perform, adding anxiety and furthering their disability. Women also become self conscious of bodily changes as they age, creating an uncomfortable love-making environment. All of these conditions definitely create barriers for some elderly couples love making. However, there are many remedies, and routes around these issues, making it possible for couples to intervene. One common route is sexual psychotherapy. Some therapists are trained directly in intimacy issues. Another consideration is "spicing up" love making...creating a romantic environment, taking more time to make love, and trying new things may create a more harmonious environment for making love. Another thought is making some lifestyle changes. Healthy living choices can have an enormous effect on aging and sexuality. Enrolling into a yoga or dance class may do wonders for some couples sex lives. All else considered, there may be some challenges to having a sexual life and aging, but there are equally as many resolutions. Many resources are now available to assist the elderly and aging in this personal quest.